Advice for a friend still tormented by a months old breakup. We are many different people choose wisely. Go to Nature and what do the trees have to say? The wind? The Birds? A special brook. They will speak to you if you ask and are patient. Become the person you yourself would want to date. When broken, people see that, and only opportunists and barflies latch on. Like Parcival on the quest for the Grail that nourishes the Soul and makes You whole, You will find then that those meant for You are attracted to You without effort. Burning the candle at both ends, turning ever depleting Adrenaline into Cortisol as surrounded by the World of men. Looking for validation in world of men of traffic and metal and trains and laptops and loud drunken clubs, depleting moreso. When we want so bad, it keeps us locked into the trauma and drama of the past, replaying in our head. How may we lay any good on a broken foundation? More effort yields no gain. Even if riches poured into the vessel it would seep, so the Universe does not attempt. Fix the vessel, attune with Nature and the Teachers, the Wisdom, the Kind and just are at ready to fulfill. Step back and see, is this mode/pattern/thoughtform working for me? Pass it off to next module. While in one mode, we view the past, present and future as only one possible way. Switch modules and we are amazed we could even view things differently. When the mind body and soul are sick, Pray. Reconnect. Afraid of loneliness? We are surrounded at all times by Spirit(s) Great and small. We become jealous imagining the fun other people are having (and at our expense, mockingly). Not true, they are likely spreading their incomplete and bad vibe self only receiving back what they have always put out. So much judgement for where we are, where we ought to be. In final analysis, on a macro scale, we have no control. Things must play out. Now, in a state of surrender, we take control, in earnest to put ourselves first. A pleasant selfishness. Say no to commitments and 'fun' and projects. Retreat, regroup. So much judgement, do these dreams serve us? Can we not see what is before us? We are many different people so choose wisely.